… wine when she gets home from work. Over the past year, one glass had turned into a bottle every night without fail. Although she looked forward to it, and she felt like it helped her to wind down, because she knew it wasn’t serving her health-wise, it didn’t make her feel great afterward. When we sat down to talk about her health goals, she kept coming back to this point as her downfall, and she, for the life of her, couldn’t work out why she was doing it when she knows the habit wasn’t good for her and it was starting to get out of hand. She was beating herself up about it and even described herself at one point as being ‘nuts’.
- She had built a habitual correlation between getting home from work and drinking to relax
- She didn’t have any other activity or habit she could think of which helped her to relax or to ‘fill up her own cup’ after a day like wine did
- When she got home from work, wine put a big smile on her face; which nothing else did
- Sally felt guilty when she took time to relax or took time out for herself, she felt like there were too many other things she could/should be doing
Next Steps at Retreat:
From what Sally told us, it sounded like she had nothing else for herself and nothing else to look forward to in her day, apart from her ‘wine time’. After a long day at work, being brilliant for the company she worked for, taking the kids to their sports trainings, she needed something for herself. It was clear that Sally needed something to put the smile back on her face at the end of a long day, most people do! Wine was a form of ‘active relaxation’ when she treated herself and when she gave herself permission to have some down time. Over time, this repeated activity which gave her joy in her day had embedded itself as a habit which has become challenging to stop. But that’s how habits work. So we helped Sally change that habit on a Three Week Life Changer retreat.